I read an article that was absolutely amazing! You can find it here: https://affectiveliving.wordpress.com/2014/03/08/what-students-really-need-to-hear/
Then I decided to put it into short statements that my 7, 9 and 12 year old children could fully comprehend. Here is the list I ended up with. Hope you enjoy it! Many thanks to the original author C Mielke!
What Students Need To Know
- I care about you as a person! (not because of your grades or intelligent)
- Academics are important, but they are not the MAIN reason for school.
- The MAIN reason for school is to learn how to deal with life and the difficulties that come with it.
- Learning how to overcome a forgotten locker combination teaches you how to solve problems on your own.
- Learning how to work with difficult classmates will help you learn how to deal with difficult people in family, work and life.
- Dealing with gossip now will teach you how to be a person of integrity and why it’s important not to participate in gossip.
- When you are in school, people will doubt you and your talents. This teaches you that you can still succeed and prove to yourself that you don’t need to doubt yourself. And that others cannot define you.
- School helps you learn how to push yourself to concentrate when a million other thoughts and temptations are trying to interfere.
- The adversity (difficult times) of the school years help prepare you for regular life, by learning to bounce back quickly after difficult times.
- School is not the most challenging years of your life. These are the years that will help prepare you for dealing with the far greater challenges of adult life.
- Your adult years will also be far more amazing than these school year.
- Yes, you will face tragedy, frustration and fear in your future, but these school years will help prepare you for those days.
- If you ‘quit’ now by throwing away your day, you are not preparing yourself to be persistent in life.
- If you ‘quit’ by not even trying to do a difficult assignment in school, you lose the opportunity to learn how to keep going when times are difficult.
- Skipping school is a way of ‘quitting’ on your free education.
- Being on time for school teaches you that it is better when you delay your temptation to sleep in, and investing in your own intelligence/education.
- Doing what is right even when you do not want to teaches you that sometimes short-term pain creates long-term gain. And that it is good to make sacrifices for a greater good.
- Learning not to be rude and disrespectful to adults in the hallway teaches you to problem solve maturely, not letting your judgment be impacted by your emotions.
- Working hard for a good grade is not about the number or letter. It is about learning to work harder and pull yourself together and do the hard work. To make sacrifices and keep going even when things seem impossible. This also helps you find hope and courage in the hopeless, difficult times.
- Every time you take the easy way out, you are building a habit of quitting. And it will destroy your future and it will steal your happiness if you let it.
- Our society cares nothing for quitters. Life will let you die alone, depressed, and poor if you can’t toughen up enough to deal with hardship.
- You either deal with the difficult times and grow stronger or blow in the wind and dissolve.
- As long as you are in my life, I am NOT going to let quitting be easy for you. I am going to challenge you, confront you, push you, and coach you. You can whine. You can throw a tantrum. You can shout and swear and stomp and cry. And the next day, guess what? I will be here waiting — smiling and patient — to give you a fresh start. Because you are worth it!
- So, do yourself a favor: Step up. No more excuses. No blaming. No quitting. Just pick your head up. Rip the cords out of your ears. Grab the stinkin’ pencil and let’s do this.
Orignal by C. Mielke, simplified by Christine Bischof